The Waiting Game

Waiting is a normal part of life. We spend much of our lives waiting. Waiting for a train, waiting for the weekend, waiting to see what life will bring next. But waiting becomes a much bigger part of your life the moment you enter into a Long Distance Relationship. You will find yourself waiting months at a time for the next opportunity to spend time with your loved one. And then, after those short, fleeting weeks, you have to start waiting all over again.
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It is definitely not easy, and perhaps one of the biggest challenges that Chelsea and I face. As I write this now, I am waiting, counting down the next 10 days until Chelsea visits me in Lancaster. At times you can find yourself being impatient, wishing you could close your eyes and wake up the moment they arrive. But, unfortunately,  that’s not the way the world works. So for the next 10 days, I’ll be counting down with excitement and anticipation until Chelsea does arrive. Of course, as difficult as the waiting is, it also sweetens the time you have together.
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After the Waiting is Over

I know that the moment Chelsea arrives, that I pick her up from the coach station at 2am in the morning, I will be making the most of every single moment we spend together. Whether it is simply sleeping side by side, enjoying each other’s company, or going on adventures. I know that not a single moment will be wasted. It means that we have a lot planned out for this trip too. I want to make the most of our time together not only because our time together is limited and precious, but also because it will be the first time Chelsea has seen Lancaster, and I will want us to be able to experience it fully, together. Usually our trips revolve around me visiting her in Bellingham, WA, or her visiting me in my hometown of Plymouth.
Exploring together in Plymouth, after a lot of waiting

Exploring Together in Plymouth.

This will be the first time that she will get to experience a completely new and different part of my life. That’s not to say that I’ll be any different, or anything between us will have changed. But it means that finally, she will be able to see where I live, meet my housemates, see where I study during term times, and start to put places to names. This is something that it important in a Long Distance Relationship. And one of the reasons that we both maintain the idea that visiting your partner is a hugely important aspect.
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Because no matter how many times you see something through a webcam, or see pictures of places, nothing compares to actually being there. Being able to connect the dots, see the bigger picture, and get an overall better insight into the life your partner leads. I am extremely excited to share this with Chelsea. I talk often about where I am on campus, or in town, and what I have been doing. But until she sees it for herself, these are still just words, slightly too abstract to fully imagine. So I consider myself lucky that I am able to share this part of my life with her.
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And, obviously, I am excited for us to discover new things together too. We try to explore, and have new experiences together as much as possible. And this time there will be plenty. We have day trips booked in advance to places that neither of us have been before. This kind of exploration is a great way to get to know someone, and I am glad that we do it, because it really allows us to strengthen the bond we have together. We’re always looking for new things to do, and with trips booked to Manchester, Windemere, Warton & Morecambe, we will have plenty to do!
The City of Lancaster.

The City of Lancaster.

The Difficulties of Waiting

But, of course, the downside to all of this excitement is that it drags out the wait, and makes it feel as if it is forever. I have been busy with exams and work over the past 9 weeks, and Chelsea has been busy with dog training. But even keeping busy doesn’t do much to make the wait feel any shorter. In fact, the more we plan ahead, and the more we look for exciting and interesting activities to do together, the more torturous the wait. Because we know just how much we are looking forward to it. And it isn’t now. That is what makes this the difficult part. Knowing how amazing those two weeks at the end of June will be. Knowing that neither of us will have to work, that we will both be able to enjoy each other’s company without distractions. And of course, the day trips too.
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It might seem like a difficult wait now. But it is only difficult because we are aware of just how extraordinary Chelsea’s visit will be. So, in a roundabout way, I am glad that the wait is difficult. If waiting was easy, I wouldn’t be looking forward to it as much. If the wait was easy, I wouldn’t care about the trip. But it is because I care about it, and I want it to be now so much, that the wait is so difficult. And, although I cannot speak for Chelsea,  I imagine she feels the same. So, the waiting game, difficult as it may it, is also rewarding. Always remember that the wait is difficult because you are looking forward to it being over. It is difficult to hate the feeling, and justifiable too. But it makes us appreciate the days we do get to spend together more. And cherish them always.
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That said, I cannot wait for the day where we don’t have to say goodbye. Where there will be no more waiting. But for now there is. And, I am sure that on that first day of the rest of our lives, where we finally do not have to let each other go, it will be made even sweeter by knowing that we made it through the wait. And if we can do that, we can do anything.
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-Chris
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Chris Martin

CommonTime Head of Marketing. Responsible marketing advocate, avid technophile, part time consultant and full time husband.