What It’s Really Like Dating an American Girl

My American Girl

There is a lot of negativity surrounding American girls online, and I honestly find this rather surprising. Yes, of course some people will have bad experiences with dates. But to generalise these assumptions, and often stereotypes, to the whole American population is unfair. Chelsea and I have been dating for a year and a half now, and it has been the most exhilarating, wonderful, exciting and special year and a half of my life. I would not trade it for anything, and I would do anything to spend the rest of my life with her. So, these are my own responses, from experience, to some of the most commonly discussed traits of American girls online.

1. American Girls Expect Perfection

There is an Assumption that American Girls Expect Perfection

There is an Assumption that American Girls Expect Perfection

One criticism that is constantly levelled against American women, is that they expect perfection. That it is the guy’s job to be able to be everything that their partner wants and more, and that even sometimes that is not enough. American girls are painted as delicate princesses that expect men to wait on them hand and foot. But, in my experience, this does not hold true at all. Chelsea and I do our best for each other, and try our best to make each other happy. We understand that we are both only human, but don’t let that come between us.

To be completely honest, I feel this criticism reflects much worse on the men that make it, than their partners. In any relationship, you should be striving to make your partner happy. You should be aiming to be perfect for them. What does it say about  the men who they complain about this? Perhaps that they have not found the person they are looking for yet. Or perhaps, that they cannot take criticism. Either way, in my experience, Chelsea does not expect perfection. But that won’t stop me from trying.

2. They Love Accents

Accents Are Attractive!

Accents Are Attractive!

This, from what I have experienced, seems to actually be somewhat true. Perhaps it is the novelty of hearing something new that makes accents so appealing. After all, America is a big country, so to hear an accent from across the pond, or somewhere even more exotic most likely feels new and exciting. But, who doesn’t love a good accent? Even here in the UK we find accents from different parts of the world (and even the country) attractive and exciting. Just as many times as I have heard an American amused by the English accent, have I heard a Brit amused by an Irish accent.

Of course, sometimes the language barrier extends beyond just a new way of saying words. There are some words that are completely different in the US, and some that have entirely different meanings. This is something that adds to the charm, and the fun of international dating, even if you do both speak the same language, there are still subtle nuances to learn and discover about each other!

3. Gun-Toting Republicans & Feminist Hippies

The Right Wing American is an Unfortunate Stereotype

The Right Wing American is an Unfortunate Stereotype

Um… no. Both of these are extreme stereotypes that completely polarise a hugely interesting and diverse culture. It was, at first, surprising to discover that these stereotypes exist, and are so prevalent. But, fortunately, I have yet to meet anybody who fits into either of these categories. Chelsea is a confident, educated, and passionate  person, who could by no means be described by such extreme language. While I have met people with strong, sometimes extreme, political and social views, that is not her. And it is a huge injustice to portray the majority of American girls as such a small extreme.

4. There is Nothing Special About Them

Chelsea is the Most Special Person in the World to Me

Chelsea is the Most Special Person in the World to Me

Once again, this completely baffles me. To me, Chelsea is the most special person in the world. She is funny, smart, talented, beautiful and extraordinarily kind. I imagine this criticism comes from a handful of scorned men, with somewhat limited dating experience, and have become bitter towards all, based on the actions of a few. It is very easy, from a few experiences, to label a group of people as the same, yet ignore the diversity within the group.

I also think that people with this view tend to fall into the trap of feeling that the grass is greener on the other side. A foreign girlfriend (or boyfriend) may seem like a more attractive idea because they are exotic and new. And while, yes, I do find dating Chelsea an exciting experience (I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy my trips to the US), I do not think that it is because she is not from the same country as me. I have found the person I want to spend my life with, and she just so happens to be American.

5. They Are Expensive

Empty Wallets are a Common Complaint

Empty Wallets are a Common Complaint

I see a lot of men online complain that their American girlfriends suck the money out of their wallet. From the first date, the man is expected to pay for everything. The concept of going Dutch (splitting the bill) is not even an option. And, from there on out, your hard earned money will be spent on trying to please your girlfriend rather than anything else.

The issue that I take with this is twofold. The first, is that it makes American girls seem helpless, and unable to financially support themselves without a man. This is an extremely outdated view, and from my experience not true. Chelsea is independent, and financially savvy (much more so than me in a fair few cases). She works hard for her money, and will often not let me pay for a meal. My other issue is that I believe strongly in the idea of chivalry. Nobody should pay for a meal (or anything) because they are expected to, but should because they want to!

6. They are Loud, Brash & Obnoxious

Chelsea is not Scared to Send Food Back

Chelsea is not Scared to Send Food Back

To Brits, the idea of sending food back when it arrives is a big ordeal. Most of us would rather eat whatever is put in front of us than face talking to the wait staff and asking for another. To Americans, Chelsea included, this is not the case. She is confident. She knows what she wants and she is not afraid to say it. That’s something that I find admirable, and wish I could do more often. The best description I have ever read for it, is that dating an American is like going through life with a puppy. They are excited, and happy to talk to others. Personally I agree with this, and it certainly brightens my day.

It is not to be confused, however, with being loud, brash or obnoxious. I am sure there are some people that are, in every culture. But American girls seem to have developed a reputation for it. One I cannot say I have ever witnessed with my own eyes. Chelsea is confident, and enjoys talking, but she is certainly not brash, obnoxious or rude to others!

7. You Need ‘Game’

Pick Up Lines are One Aspect of Having 'Game'

Pick Up Lines are One Aspect of Having ‘Game’

This one has always confused me. Men, particularly American men, seem obsessed by the concept of game. It is some kind of weird, intangible chat-up line infused, pick-up art. And, to be completely honest, I find the whole idea a little creepy. Online, most men suggest that you need either money, or ‘game’ to be able to date an American girl. There are even websites dedicated to helping you ‘improve your game.’

I, however, clearly needed no game (or even to know what game was) to start dating Chelsea. It was even her who said that she liked me, not the other way around! It seems to me as if game is a very easy excuse for men to blame their rejection on. In reality, American girls often don’t even like men who try to pick them up, but rather those that will reciprocate their love and care. I am glad that mine and Chelsea’s relationship is built on mutual love and trust, rather than the amount of amusing chat up lines I know. I am sure we are stronger for it.

8. American Women Are Superficial

The Selfie is a Relatively New Trend

The Selfie is a Relatively New Trend

Selfies. Celebrity culture. Appearance. People level a huge amount of criticism towards American girls on how superficial they believe them to me. But again, in my experience, this is not at all the case. Chelsea cares more about those around her, and the animals that she works with than the fashion or lifestyle choices of a distant celebrity. She is more interested in a person’s personality than their appearance. And she most certainly does not have a checklist that men must pass to date her.

My point is, it is easy to say that all American girls are superficial, but in reality they are not. The popularity of celebrities, and the superficial qualities of women are often perpetuated by the news and entertainment industry. They create tropes (shortcuts) that can often lead to false assumptions. I believe that very few American women are as superficial as they are made out to be.

9. Naivety & Stupidity

Chelsea is a Professionally Certified Dog Trainer

Chelsea is a Professionally Certified Dog Trainer

Another unfortunate comment that I come across all too often is that American girls are naive, stupid, and closed minded. This one particularly bugs me, because honestly, Chelsea is by far one of the smartest people I know. She chose a profession that she loved (dog training) and has pursued it with all of her energy. She regularly attends seminars on behavioural psychology, neuroscience, communication and business.

Of course, that is not to mention that she is always aware of the latest news and world affairs. To suggest that all American girls are naive and stupid, is something that I find (ironically) pretty naive in itself. Chelsea is easily one of the most intelligent people I know, and I am proud of all that she has achieved.

10. They Are Upfront & Honest

It Was Chelsea Who Admitted She Liked Me First!

It Was Chelsea Who Admitted She Liked Me First!

Finally! Another assumption that I can agree with. Yes, in my experience, Chelsea is very upfront and honest. When we started dating, she let me know that she wasn’t dating for the sake of it. That the purpose of dating (for her) was to find someone she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. At first, this took me by surprise. I am not used to people talking this honestly about their feelings or intentions. But, I am glad she did.

It makes much more sense to talk openly in a relationship about how you feel, than to bottle it up inside and hope that it won’t come up in conversation. I think it is a quality that promotes openness, honesty and in general leads to a much healthier relationship!

In conclusion, what should you take away from this article about dating American girls? Well, if you have never dated an American before: don’t believe the bad rap that they get online. And if you have, then perhaps you just haven’t found the right person for you yet. American girls are a huge and diverse population. I’m sure not everybody is perfect, but from my experience, they can be absolutely wonderful. I found the love of my life in America, and I’m sure that others will too.

Chelsea and I are just one example of an international couple, who found love across the pond. We would love to hear your experiences about dating in America as well. Do you agree with this article, and have you found the one for you yet? Let us know, and start a conversation in the comments below! And to read more about our our story and how we met, check out this article.

-Chris

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  • Alan

    Hello

    I love your blog, twitter, FB, I have an american GF, recently I have asked her to marry me, for me, I couldn’t agree more, she does love my accent, she is confident and beautiful and the most special lady, not a gun loving, money grabbing, rude, brash, up herself air head, she is a highly trained accountant (not boring to get her away from that stereotype lol) we all form opinions on people before we meet them, but for me, my girl is the most incredible lady in the world but she does absolutely love my accent haha, it causes no end of amusement when we speak …. Thank you for sharing your story, we both love it !!!

    • Chris Martin

      Hi Alan, great to hear you are a fan of the blog! And congratulations on your engagement, I’m sure your future holds lots of wonderful things. There are a lot of negative stereotypes about American women online, but it sounds as though you have an amazing fiance! I wish you the best of luck with your wedding, and visa application too at some point I imagine!

  • I really enjoyed reading your article and I totally agree with your points. Girls in general, not only American girls, love a man with a British accent and you made a very good point in saying that loving or hating a certain accent differs from person to person. This article was actually very informative for me, as I used to think some of those things too, but you’ve completely changed the way I view things now! I think you and your girlfriend are an extremely good couple and wish you the best of luck!

  • Liane

    So are you married yet? :)

    • Chris Martin

      Not yet – we’re still working through the UK visa process. We have our wedding set for August 2016!

  • Gavin

    Hi Chris

    I just wanted to say that this ranks as one of the sweetest, most romantic gestures I’ve seen. What a beautiful way to express and reinforce how you feel about Chelsea. You are clearly both very lucky to have found each other. :o)

    Gavin

    ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’

    • Chris Martin

      Hi Gavin,

      Thank you for taking the time to read, and thank you very much for your kind words! Yes, I do believe we have been very lucky to find each other!

      All the best,
      Chris

  • Jack

    But, what is the difference between an american man pursuing a foreign woman? It’s like the same reason why a brother can’t marry a sister because they simply know too much about that person and are too close. Maybe we feel better when we are blind to the truths. Your views would be more credible about an american woman if you were an american man yourself :P

    • Chris Martin

      Hi Jack,

      There’s no difference between this and an American man pursuing a foreign woman. In fact there’s a lot of articles written about that too. Unfortunately I don’t agree that my views would be more credible if I were an American man. Perhaps I was lucky when I found Chelsea, she is an amazing person regardless of nationality. But this article was simply written to express my personal experience, as I have read many (both positive and negative) from American men about foreign women.

      All the best,
      Chris

      • Jack

        Welcome to America. If you haven’t already, make sure you watch the movie Coming to America with Eddie Murphy. I was just trying to say that if you grew up in the american culture you probably would have a difference perspective on the whole thing – maybe for better or worse, I couldn’t tell ya. Sometimes as an outsider looking in, I feel that we can be fooled rather easily sometimes, and not realize it before it is too late. Anyways, good luck and congratulations, brother. I wish you the pursuit of happiness. As Aristotle once said, “Happiness depends on ourselves.”

        • chey1

          Coming to America is fiction and not based on real life (Its a comedy lol). This is a fantastic article based on this person’s experience, so I suspect a little jealousy on your part. Putting in my 2 cent.

        • chey1

          Coming to America is fiction and not based on real life (Its a comedy lol). This is a fantastic article based on this person’s experience, so I suspect a little jealousy on your part. Putting in my 2 cent.

  • chey1

    A beautiful couple. I think there should be an easier way for American women to meet British men, maybe there will be someday. Best wishes

    • Thank you for your kind words Cheyenne. We were actually asked to write for a dating site at one point, Date British Guys (https://datebritishguys.com). We turned the offer down in the end – but the site does exist!

      • chey1

        Thanks

  • chey1

    A beautiful couple. I think there should be an easier way for American women to meet British men, maybe there will be someday. Best wishes

  • Kamal Brooks

    Hey bro, not all American women are the same but the majority are, the exception does not make the rule! You have a beautiful girlfriend but if u choose to marry her u need to understand that marriage is for love and divorce is for money. Idk how much experience you have with American women but I will tell you from my experience that it has been a total nightmare, besides the current American girlfriend I’m with, you cannot just dismiss what they are saying or complaining about to limited experiences or whatever internal issues they might be having. Based off what I have read about you it seems like ur girlfriend lives in the UK with you and if that is the case then she might be an open minded woman who feels there is more to the world than the USA, she may not be the “typical” American woman that u hear about. Anyway the way u described your gf sounds like everything like my gf now.

    • Hi Kamal,

      Every country has a stereotype about men and women from around the world. If I lived up to those American stereotype-standards, I’d be an obese, gun-totting hillbilly voting for Trump or a model-thin, hot blonde looking for my next sugar daddy. I can say things about Italians, Chinese, Brazilian, French, Greek etc. But I’m not that kind of girl. ALL women have feelings that they can express and it should never be dismissed – because we’re human too. I feel terribly for women who live in countries where it’s not proper within their culture to be able to speak what’s on their mind, and who are not treated as an equal to men. Enough with the know-it-all’s who think all American’s are bad and that I and someone else’s partner might be the few “exceptions”. There are plenty of American men and women who a great, open minded (just like you said) people – and I know many of them.

      I do not rely on any man to get what I want out of life. I work hard for my money, and I pay my bills on my own. I never saw my husband as an opportunity to make my life easier or more comfortable. I met Chris while he was a student at University and had hardly any income – while for some women in any country this can seem unattractive, I did not let that influence me on how I felt about him. Yes having a career and a stable income is comforting and brings on security – it is not everything. I chose to marry Chris because I love him, and for better or for worse, if I continued to earn more than him for the rest of our lives, that I would never leave him for it.

      My husband and I do not live together at the moment – nor have we ever, but we should be receiving a decision on our visa any day now so that I may move to the UK to be with him. We chose to live in the UK at the start of our married life because he has better work opportunities there, but he was never against the idea of living with me anywhere else in the world. I have given up my career in America – tossed away my good and reliable income to be with him. As a dual national to Canada, I have known for most of my life that I did not want to reside in the US forever. For over a decade I wanted to move to Canada after I completed school to live and work, then remain there for the rest of my days and start a family. I wasn’t looking for love when I met Chris, and I certainly had no interest in changing my life plans. But you can’t deny fate. Canada is still on my mind and one day we will move there together.

      There are no rules in life.

      -Chelsea

    • Hi Kamal,

      Every country has a stereotype about men and women from around the world. If I lived up to those American stereotype-standards, I’d be an obese, gun-totting hillbilly voting for Trump or a model-thin, hot blonde looking for my next sugar daddy. I can say things about Italians, Chinese, Brazilian, French, Greek etc. But I’m not that kind of girl. ALL women have feelings that they can express and it should never be dismissed – because we’re human too. I feel terribly for women who live in countries where it’s not proper within their culture to be able to speak what’s on their mind, and who are not treated as an equal to men. Enough with the know-it-all’s who think all American’s are bad and that I and someone else’s partner might be the few “exceptions”. There are plenty of American men and women who a great, open minded (just like you said) people – and I know many of them.

      I do not rely on any man to get what I want out of life. I work hard for my money, and I pay my bills on my own. I never saw my husband as an opportunity to make my life easier or more comfortable. I met Chris while he was a student at University and had hardly any income – while for some women in any country this can seem unattractive, I did not let that influence me on how I felt about him. Yes having a career and a stable income is comforting and brings on security – it is not everything. I chose to marry Chris because I love him, and for better or for worse, if I continued to earn more than him for the rest of our lives, that I would never leave him for it.

      My husband and I do not live together at the moment – nor have we ever, but we should be receiving a decision on our visa any day now so that I may move to the UK to be with him. We chose to live in the UK at the start of our married life because he has better work opportunities there, but he was never against the idea of living with me anywhere else in the world. I have given up my career in America – tossed away my good and reliable income to be with him. As a dual national to Canada, I have known for most of my life that I did not want to reside in the US forever. For over a decade I wanted to move to Canada after I completed school to live and work, then remain there for the rest of my days and start a family. I wasn’t looking for love when I met Chris, and I certainly had no interest in changing my life plans. But you can’t deny fate. Canada is still on my mind and one day we will move there together.

      There are no rules in life.

      -Chelsea

    • Hi Kamal,

      I don’t agree that Chelsea is the exception to any rule. I also don’t think that there is any ‘American type’. Part of the reason this blog was written was to break the negative and unfair stereotype surrounding American women. Of course there will be people who do fit into this stereotype, but you’ll find that in any culture. Being American doesn’t make you any more likely to be a bad partner. It sounds as though you have had some negative experiences in the past, but you shouldn’t let that cloud your view of American women as a whole.

      Also, while divorce may in some cases be about money – there are a lot of other reasons people divorce. From wanting to find happiness, to finding themselves in bad circumstance. Chelsea and I got married because we wanted to and it is what will make us happy. We won’t divorce for money, and I feel sorry for anyone who would even consider doing something like that.

      I don’t need to have experience with many American women to ‘understand their type’. Everyone is different, no matter what country you are from. Don’t let negative experiences cloud your view of others.

      Chris

      • Kamal Brooks

        You know what?? For someone who did not grow up in the states and is just getting started in life (and you’re quite young) you swear that you’re an expert on American women based off your current and only relationship with an American. I’m 37 years old and no 20 something kid like you is going to tell me anything else that I experienced over and over again until I saw the light!!! My judgment is not clouded, it’s very clear. Anyway I liked how your girlfriend wrote me supporting you and based off what she said confirms to me what I already thought about her, she’s open minded and she knows that there is more to the world than the USA. I have dated American and Non American women and it is a big contrast in attitudes and how I was treated.

        Also I’ll say this again, divorce is for MONEY. Your girlfriend stated that she gave up her income and career to be with you and start a family. Now this sound sweet and selfless until a series of bad things happens and ya decide to get a divorce. Now if the UK, or Canada works the same way as the US she’s going to come after everything you got and worked for because her reason would that she gave up her income and career and had your kids!!!! Honestly you should of gave her a prenup but too late for that now unless you’re interested in an annulment. Now waiting for your “expert” response…………

        • Hi Kamal,

          Thanks for the prenup advice – I’ll look into getting it as I’m more advanced in my career and own more property than he does. I’ll consider an annulment if he starts acting shady or if I see any red flags. For someone who is 37 years old, you sure do know a lot about women all around the world. What are your credentials in dating and relationships?

          -Chelsea

        • Hi Kamal,

          Thanks for the prenup advice – I’ll look into getting it as I’m more advanced in my career and own more property than he does. I’ll consider an annulment if he starts acting shady or if I see any red flags. For someone who is 37 years old, you sure do know a lot about women all around the world. What are your credentials in dating and relationships?

          -Chelsea

        • Kamal Brooks

          Now I would not say I am an expert in women because I’m always learning but what do u by creditentials? U mean my experience? I would tell you that the women I have talked to in Europe tends to be more friendlier and easier to connect with. My girlfriend treats me wonderful with absolute respect and I’ll do the same thing for her, I would be devastated if I was to hurt her. The way ur man described you sounds like everything how my gf is….and she was upfront about her feelings and honest. But the thing is I had to go thru a ton of women, in the states, just to find someone like her. If I was in another country I would have met many women like my current gf at a faster rate and less of headache.

          • Our goal is to assist long distance couples who are looking to close the gap by helping guide them through their daunting visa application process. We dedicate our free time to answer their questions or concerns based from our experience and our knowledge in the topic. Are you currently going through any visa application process for settlement in the US or UK? We’re always looking for success stories to share on our website with our readers – should you want to share your story please don’t hesitate to email it to us.

            At the end of the day, we all want to be with the ones we love. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best in the world.

            Only good things,
            Chelsea

        • Kamal Brooks

          Now I would not say I am an expert in women because I’m always learning but what do u by creditentials? U mean my experience? I would tell you that the women I have talked to in Europe tends to be more friendlier and easier to connect with. My girlfriend treats me wonderful with absolute respect and I’ll do the same thing for her, I would be devastated if I was to hurt her. The way ur man described you sounds like everything how my gf is….and she was upfront about her feelings and honest. But the thing is I had to go thru a ton of women, in the states, just to find someone like her. If I was in another country I would have met many women like my current gf at a faster rate and less of headache.

  • Kamal Brooks

    Hey bro, not all American women are the same but the majority are, the exception does not make the rule! You have a beautiful girlfriend but if u choose to marry her u need to understand that marriage is for love and divorce is for money. Idk how much experience you have with American women but I will tell you from my experience that it has been a total nightmare, besides the current American girlfriend I’m with, you cannot just dismiss what they are saying or complaining about to limited experiences or whatever internal issues they might be having. Based off what I have read about you it seems like ur girlfriend lives in the UK with you and if that is the case then she might be an open minded woman who feels there is more to the world than the USA, she may not be the “typical” American woman that u hear about. Anyway the way u described your gf sounds like everything like my gf now.

  • Mimi

    Hi, I’m an American girl and I think this is a wonderful article and an even more beautiful gesture to your lady. So happy for the two of you.

    Of course there are women that fit this description, but you’re right that it’s a horrible thing for men to assume all American women fit these stereotypes. It certainly isn’t true in my case, and many of the women I associate with. I will also add that I find that a lot of these generalization come straight from American men. (Not all men, but many.) Maybe because they’ve dated American women who fit these stereotypes and have been tainted. Who, knows, but I’ve had many personal experiences where American men describe woman in these ways and it’s unfortunate.

    I’m also in an international relationship, dating a Polish man, who’s living in Australia and I’ve never been happier with anyone else. He loves me for me, and I him. We both also understand that we’re both only human, but try our best to be the perfect partner for one another. He’s caring, thoughtful, appreciative, intelligent, hard working, and very handsome with a sexy accent. :) haha and I think one the reasons why we worked is because he was open and got to know me for me. Unlike my boyfriend, most (not all) men I encounter are trying to “hit” on me, rather then simply getting to know me. That’s one of the biggest issues I had with dating here in the states. It’s like they’re always trying to say or do things to “get” me right off the bat, but I’m thinking, dude, you don’t even know if you’re going to like me yet. Haha I guess it’s that “I’ve got to have game” mentality that you mentioned in the article. A little advice to the me out there, any girl worth having does not want a man with “game”. Just be yourself. : )

    Also, I find that many American men do believe that all women want is their money. If I accept a date with a guy, most of them make me feel as if I owe them something afterwards. It’s a major turnoff. To all the men out there that believe this, FYI – I’m on this date with you because I wanted to get to know you better, not because I wanted a free meal!! I have a job, and all the days before you, I fed myself! Ugh….haha sorry, many bad experiences with this. Disclaimer: I don’t hate American men, these are just some of my bad experiences – there are many wonderful men in America as well. I have many girlfriends that are married to wonderful American men. I just happen to find my other half in Australia : )

    Anywho – all this to say, in most cases generalization are usually a bad idea so fellas, don’t let these stupid stereotypes stop you from getting to know an American girl! I promise there are many amazing ones out there that could be your potential life partner.

    XO

    • Hi Mimi,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts – it’s encouraging to hear you share our views on generalisations. I do think it is a great shame that a lot of American guys and girls completely write off finding a partner in their home country because of a couple bad experiences. It sounds to me as though you have a completely balanced visa – and your situation is actually strikingly similar to ours. When I met Chelsea in the UK for the first time, she wasn’t looking for a British boyfriend – it just happened to be that we hit it off, and found our perfect partners on the opposite side of the Atlantic.

      It’s great to hear that you’re in an international relationship and you are doing so well. The time difference is never an easy part – I imagine the difference between Australia and the US is quite large as well. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that one day you’ll be able to close the distance between you! In the meantime, if you ever want to be a featured couple on our blog, you can drop us an email at info@lovemybrit.com. We like to feature couples every now and again to showcase LDRs (and international relationships) that people are making work, enjoying and working towards closing the distance.

      All the best,
      Chris

  • awwhellno

    American women are superficial. This is one stereotype that has been earned by American females and some are even proud to state it like they’re up for an award. I don’t know why but American women love with a capital L to humiliate men who don’t fit their standards to a tee. I think it revolves around being seen as having access to the fittest and most socially approved of the males, then later on as their looks fade the wealthiest. But foreign women do not do this selfish denigration of flirty guys. They just don’t. At least not to the degree that American girls do. American girls seem to reserve their contempt specifically for male suitors in the dating world. American girls enforce these social bubbles so strongly that you have males who go for years never talking to one. You read about them all the time on discussion boards and how American women demonize them and treat flirting as some sort of unpleasant breach of their fantasy world. American women totally deny access, foreign women encourage you to earn access. That’s the difference.

    I recall seeing my friends get shot down with extreme prejudice by American girls who treated them like they smelled like rotting onions or something. The girls would make faces, swear under their breath or laugh in their faces. Oftentimes the girl would run away as soon as the guy asked them to do something together as if he were a monster. Either that or she would just keep saying “no” to everything. They would also act insulted or become silent if any guy broached the topic of dating casually, they hated that with a passion since they often “choose” the guys they liked in secret and wanted to keep it that way as if to protect their gatekeeper advantage on the social scene. They loathed guys who were studious but unatheletic, even if they had jobs lined up they hated them for not having a good body or for not coming from the “best” families. These were all American girls. It was as if they put up an impenetrable social wall that served to protect their dignity from ugly men, of which apparently was about 70% of the guys. If you weren’t an athlete you were garbage and if you weren’t white god save your soul. They would not look you in the eye when you talked, they would give one sentence answers and they had this odd habit of condemning a guy through gossip if any other girl rejected him (or if he dated a minority girl.) Gossip was how the females controlled who talked to them for the most part and using this mechanism they would often craft parties and events that only invited the chosen males. Most of the guys at school would hear about these parties days after they occurred because the girls would organize them so that only the hunks and drunks showed up. This was where most of the orgy sex stories came from too. But the worst part about it was in group social settings where they would openly huddle, hug and kiss the guys they liked right in front of you as if to display what you didn’t have access to and what the other guy qualified for. They would do this in front of crowds specifically to insult the males who had no girlfriends, again it was another variation of mocking the non-elite male. This behavior even came from average girls who seemed to only date tall guys from other schools, so you know that they were gaining access to males that they otherwise wouldn’t get using these freeze tactics. They openly ridiculed most of the males around them by being off limits, cold, dismissive and cruel.

    I wasn’t surprised to learn that some of my classmates were considering suicide, the girls were that vicious towards unwanted suitors. The worst part about it was that these girls were beautiful. Most of them were white girls you wanted to lose your virginity with, but they ended up being these icy divas from hell who talked down to you. Foreign women at least have the decency of respecting your opinion and will talk with you. American girls only respected the hot guys, the metrosexual white guys and rarely the basketball black guy. American society has given the females carte blanche to treat other guys who want to have sex with them as villains. Foreign women at least entertain casual sex as a fact of life and validate a man’s spirit and energy even when he isn’t perfect or white. In this regard American women have earned their ghastly reputation several times over.

  • Was this entire article written to gain some brownie points to you? LOL, just kidding mate. Ive got an all American woman and she is the real deal. Republican gun loving, BBQ making, burger loving babe. And yes, she even grows and eats Kale ;) On top of that God drives her determination through life and I don’t care if she turns around one day grows hairy armpits. Typical weekend; Friday night, bar with mates, Saturday gun range, afternoon BBQ and beers, Sunday Church and Roast. Sunday night movies and or romantic walks. Her expectation? Just do your share of the work and one day lets open a winery, with shooting range of course. =) This is the life I’ve chosen and yes I have two Masters at a Great University.