This week we were lucky enough to speak to Dan & Sam, a wonderful British & American couple who met online in late 2013 and began dating after meeting each other in person for the first time. Since then, the pair have crossed the Atlantic every 6 months to visit each other – an amazing feat & commitment. Dan & Sam are committed and patient – they know long distance is difficult, but have been doing all that they can to grow together in their relationship.
We wish them the best of luck, and hope that someday soon this wonderful couple will be able to close the distance between them. This is their story:
How Did You Meet?
We met online around November of 2013. I remember we bonded over the films Happy Feet and Titanic. For the first month or so we mainly messaged each other a few days a week and then that quickly progressed to Skyping. Speaking to him became a regular part of my day. He made me laugh so much.
It was interesting navigating through our feelings for one another those next couple of months but by the following summer we knew we were in love. Last April, I made the trip to England where we officially met and began dating.
What is Your Situation Now?
Right now, we alternate visiting each other every five or six months. Dan was here in New York with me this past November and I’ll be going back to England for our anniversary in April. On a normal day, we text and send Snapchats throughout the day. After work, we Skype from anywhere between an hour to five hours depending on the time he has to be up the next day.
The time difference is a killer and I always feel like he doesn’t get enough sleep. If it was the other way around, there’s no way I could stay up until the hours that he does so he really is the best.
What do you find difficult about the distance?
Dan: The fact that I can’t come home to her every day.
Sam: Some days just coming home and seeing his face, hearing his voice for whatever amount of time is enough. Other times, I feel like we barely get a chance to look at each other. And that’s not okay, because I really love his face. Not being able to hold his hand or cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie or even just fight over the last slice of pizza (well, he’d just let me have it) can be disappointing sometimes.
I can’t make him soup when he’s sick. He can’t give me a hug when I’ve had a bad day at work. It’s tough not spending certain moments together. But we have a love that makes us work harder than we’ve ever worked and that allows us to love deeper as well. It pushes us to make the most of our time together.
What is Your Advice for Other Long Distance Couples?
Dan: Make sure it’s something that you’re committed to no matter what.
Sam: It does take a lot of commitment. You’re lucky if you find the type of love people write songs about so you should make this a priority. You will have to readjust how you spend your time in order to find a routine that works for both of you and be sure to stick to it as much as possible.
It’s also important to be able to deal with things when you kind of get out of the groove. Be sure to communicate with your partner when this happens so you can work through it together. Just be patient, have faith in yourselves, and trust that it will all work out. Or if you’re really insanely smart, invent a teleportation device.
What Are Your Plans for the Future?
Once I finish school, we will see what is best for us. We’re both willing to make the move but it justdepends on the overall circumstances, mostly job wise. Honestly, it doesn’t matter if we’re in England or America. I just know that we’ll be moving forward in our lives together.
Things may seem crazy now but it’s pretty amazing too. We’re each better because of the other. I just want whatever future allows me to wake up to him by my side every day. Anything else we have to do in order to make that happen is worth it.
– Chris & Chelsea