When people find out I’m in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) I am usually confronted with questions like “How did you meet each other?” “How often do you see each other?” “How do you cope with the separation?” I’m always happy to tell them the details on how we met, how often we see each other, and how I cope with spending more time alone, than together with Chris.
They’ll nod their heads, and look at me with understanding, and then in the same instance they quickly shut it down and say “Well I wouldn’t be able to handle the distance”. This always surprises me. I never told anyone I could handle dating long distance. I hate it. If you had asked me a couple of years ago if I would ever date long distance, I would have said no. The difference between then and now was what I experienced in the moments Chris and I shared together.
Chris and I during a night out in July 2013, only the second time we hung out together with our group of friends.
Chris and I didn’t start dating until after I came back home to America. We met in July of 2013, hung out several times, talked a lot, and after I returned home we continued to message each other on our cell phones and Skype online. I wasn’t looking for love when I was over there. I was just enjoying myself, partying, dancing, travelling, site seeing, meeting new people & making new friends, and having a good laugh.
When I met Chris I was instantly attracted to him. I thought he was very cute, I liked his hair, loved his smile, and even though he didn’t talk much in the beginning, he was still capable of making me laugh. Obviously with my time spent in England, I was growing close to him, but he was just a guy and I was fully capable of meeting a guy back home. Once I got back home he and I continued to talk everyday. I knew I liked him, I could have told you that before I left in July, but I didn’t realise how much of an effort he and I would make to actually stay in touch. That’s when it all changed.
Skype date with Chris.
How to Cope? Think About the Future
Chris asked me out during a Skype date. I was finally forced to come to a decision about whether or not a LDR was right for me. What would take some people minutes, a couple of hours, or even a few days to think about, I had no hesitations. I blushed and said yes. Having Chris in my life, with 4,000+ miles separating us, brings me more love and happiness than not having him in my life at all. We could have remained as friends, stayed in touch, and chatted occasionally, but we both wanted more than that.
No LDR is ever easy to maintain. We know the distance will not keep us apart forever, in the meantime, it’s just an obstacle in our lives that we continue to face. When you meet the person who you cannot imagine living your life without, you will do anything it takes so you can be together.
Being in a LDR with Chris was the best decision I have ever made, and I am quite happy to say “Yes, I’m in a long distance relationship”, because he is worth the distance and the wait.
Chelsea Martin is a Certified Pet Dog Trainer (CPDT-KA) and a Certified Behaviour Adjustment Training Instructor (CBATI). She has been training dogs professionally since 2007, and is the Head Coach for Dogs Trust Dog School Nottinghamshire. She met Chris on a trip to England in 2013, Married him on New Year's Eve - celebrating 2016 as husband and wife!