Author - Chelsea Martin

#AskBritishHusbands: How Were You Received into Your Foreign Wives Families?

Meeting the family of your partner for the very first time can be extremely daunting – and even more so when there is a cultural or language barrier between you. Both Chris and Joe have married into families outside of the UK – my family is from the US and Chantelle’s is from South Africa.

Meeting Your Wife’s Family

In this video they discuss how they were received into those respective families, as well as some of the challenges that they each had to overcome. Fortunately, both families were very accepting of them – but it was still quite an adjustment that had to be made.

My family, for example, thought it was funny that Chris was from the UK and so decked out our house with both British and American flags for his arrival. Then, meeting extended family (which can be fairly overwhelming) was the next step. Both Chris and Joe fared well with this and managed to bond with our families over similarities and discovering new differences alike.

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What Is ‘Ask British Husbands’?

This is the second episode in our #AskBritishHusbands series. In these videos, the British husbands of expats discuss what it’s like to date/marry a foreigner, cultural differences and more. By talking to a range of people in the UK, we hope you’ll get a great sense of what life is like and what to expect if you’re in an international relationship. To watch previous episodes, check out our full playlist here.

If you have a question you would like us to answer in a future episode, leave it in the comments below! Alternatively, send your questions to us on Twitter using our handle @ilovemybrit and using the hashtag #AskBritishHusbands.

-Chelsea

#AskExpatWives: Why Plan Two Weddings in an LDR?

When closing the distance in an LDR, it is not uncommon for couples to have two weddings. Chris and I held two ceremonies – one in the US and one in the UK. In this video, Chantelle and I discuss the many reasons that long distance couples decide to hold multiple wedding ceremonies (from meeting visa requirements to giving family a chance to attend).

Having Two Weddings

In addition, we discuss how we each came to the decision to have multiple ceremonies, how we chose who to invite to each and how we made each day feel different yet special in its own right.

Keeping each day separate, yet memorable, is one of the most difficult aspects of this process. That’s why Chantelle and I explain some of the ways in which this can be achieved – including: the guest lists, location, the structure of each ceremony and more.

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What Is ‘Ask Expat Wives’?

This is the second episode in our #AskExpatWives series. In these videos we am to answer your questions about life as an expat, living in the UK, our British husbands and more. By talking to a range of expats in the UK, we hope you’ll get a great sense of what life is like and what changes you might expect if you are considering moving to a new country. Watch all previous #AskExpatWives videos here.

If you have a question you would like us to answer in a future episode, leave it in the comments below! Alternatively, send your questions to us on Twitter using our handle @ilovemybrit and using the hashtag #AskExpatWives. We’ll also be releasing a similar series next week, #AskBritishHusbands, where our significant others give their perspective on adapting to new cultures and life after an LDR.

-Chelsea

Chris & Chelsea: Our Wedding Video (By Ray McShane at The Alverton)

On Sunday August 7th, 2016 – Chris and I celebrated our wedding at The Alverton, Truro. Though we had already married in Bellingham on New Year’s Eve, this was our chance to celebrate with friends, family and each other.

The Wedding Ceremony & Reception

We treated the wedding blessing as if it were our wedding day itself – repeated our vows to each other and held a small ceremony. After the ceremony we mingled with guests – some of whom had travelled all the way from the United States – enjoyed each other’s company, danced and ate.

The morning was spent preparing. As our guests arrived and took their seats, we stepped out into the main hall of the Alverton for a small ceremony conducted by Chris’ uncle. Once the ceremony was over we headed outside for the confetti toss, photo opportunities and to talk with our guests.

Later on that afternoon, the hall was transformed into a beautiful reception venue where we sat to eat and listen to the speeches. Finally the day ended with hours of dancing into the small hours of the morning. It was a whirlwind, but a wonderful day.

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The whole day was captured on film by Ray McShane, and the 10 minute cut can be seen here. From preparing for the big moment, to dancing late into the night – we’re so happy to have this memento from an amazing day.

What’s Next?

Now that Chris and I have married (twice) – and closed the distance between us, we are embarking on ‘normal life’ together. This year, since our wedding blessing, we have moved to Nottingham and Chris has started in a new job. We know the future holds a lot for us and though we may not know exactly what that is – we are excited to embrace it together.

Wishing happiness to all the other long distance couples out there waiting to close the distance and enjoy regular life together!

-Chelsea

#AskBritishHusbands: Do You Receive Negative Feedback About Your American Wives?

In this video series, our British husbands answer questions about what it’s like being married to an America, differences in culture, travel and more. This time, we ask whether they ever receive any negative feedback about being married to an American.

While most people are generally supportive of our relationships, both Chris and Ashley have experienced negative comments about their decisions too. This is something that is, unfortunately, all too common when it comes to international relationships and marriages. The situations and contexts in which these comments arise is also often surprising.

Dealing With Negative Comments

When answering this question, both Chris and Ashley give a few examples of their experiences with the negativity – as well as what they have done to cope or deal with it.

Want more videos about long distance dating, expat life & our time together in the UK? Subscribe on YouTube to see new videos every Wednesday & Sunday.

What Is ‘Ask British Husbands’?

This is the first episode in our #AskBritishHusbands series. In these videos, the British husbands of expats discuss what it’s like to date/marry a foreigner, cultural differences and more. By talking to a range of people in the UK, we hope you’ll get a great sense of what life is like and what to expect if you’re in an international relationship

If you have a question you would like us to answer in a future episode, leave it in the comments below! Alternatively, send your questions to us on Twitter using our handle @ilovemybrit and using the hashtag #AskBritishHusbands.

From this point onwards we’ll be releasing one Ask Expat Wives video and one Ask British Husbands video on alternating weeks, so be sure to check back next week when we’ll be looking at how American wives feel about their husband’s British accents.

-Chelsea

Celebrating Our First Thanksgiving in the UK (#Vlog 21)

On the fourth Thursday of every November, American families all across the world celebrate Thanksgiving, and we were no exception. But this year was a little different.

This was our first Thanksgiving spent in the UK. However instead of family, we celebrated with friends of ours – another British-American couple who related to the feeling of not being home for the holiday season.

Because Thanksgiving itself is not a holiday in the UK, we instead celebrated on the weekend. On Friday night we drove from Nottingham to Manchester, in order to spend the entire Saturday cooking and eating (just as we would in the USA). Though we were initially unsure of whether the day would feel like Thanksgiving, we were pleasantly surprised!

How We Celebrated Thanksgiving in the UK

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After sleeping in, our husbands first drove to the butchers to pick up our turkey as we prepared the rest of the food and lunch. Because dinner was going to be so large, we had planned a lunch made up entirely of snacks to keep the food consumption light. Once they arrived back at the apartment, the remainder of our morning was spent preparing the turkey.

During the afternoon, we snacked, played games and waited for the turkey to finish cooking. Around 5pm, we sat around the table (just as we would back home) and ate until we couldn’t eat any more. There was just enough room to squeeze in home-made pie before spending the evening watching Scrooged and decorating the Christmas tree.

What Holidays from Home Do You Miss?

Not being home for the holidays can be tough – there’s no doubt about it. Everyone misses something different. For me, it’s a strange feeling not being in the US with family for Thanksgiving knowing that everyone I know back home is celebrating it (although I have yet to experience a Christmas in the UK).

What holidays from your home country do you miss? And what have you done in your new home to make it a little more special? We know from firsthand experience that every expat will have their own unique quirks – let us know in the comments below.

-Chelsea