Author - Chris Martin

Life Update #1 – Where Have We Been?

We haven’t posted a video in almost 2 months now! In this brief life update we explain what we’ve been up to in that time and why we haven’t been able to post as often as we would have liked to.

The past few months have certainly been full of ‘firsts’ for us – but now that life seems to be settling down, we hope to continue to upload new videos every Sunday.

What Have We Been Up To?

So what exactly have we been up to? Chelsea has taken UK driving lessons and passed her driving tests (a US licence is only valid for 1 year in the UK), as well as finding a job in the dog behaviour industry. Apple, our Miniature Dachshund, had spinal surgery – she is now taking physiotherapy to recover. And we welcomed two new birds into our home too!

Apple’s surgery was almost 4 weeks ago now and she is now well on the road to recovery. But it has not been an easy one. We are very happy to say though that the prognosis is now looking much more positive.

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What’s Next?

Now that life seems to be settling down a little – we are planning to get back on track, releasing a new video every Sunday. Next week, we’ll start with the first of a 2-part series on Chelsea’s experience learning to drive in the UK as an existing foreign licence holder.

After that, we hope to publish more in our #AskExpatWives and #AskBritishHusband series, along with a few videos on some of our favourite things to do in the UK – especially if you’re only planning a short visit.

Once again, we apologise for not being very active over the past few months, but we look forward to sharing more with you in the future.


Weekly Featured Couple: Juvelyn & Cyrus

Juvelyn and Cyrus

Our latest featured couple are Juvelyn & Cyrus. Childhood sweethearts, this couple reconnected and their long distance relationship has blossomed ever since.

With a work contract coming to a close, the couple are now looking to travel together and form as many shared many memories as possible. Read their full story, as described by Juvelyn, below.

How Did You Meet?

I’m Juvie, 26 years old and my boyfriend is Cyrus, 29 years old. Our story started at a very young age. He was my childhood/neighbourhood friend when we were still living in the province. We did not talk or see each other that much since he studied in the city and only came home every weekend .

He sent me a love letter saying that he likes me and he wanted to court me. It was nothing special at that time since we were too young and my family needed to move to different place. We were not yet a couple but there was distance is between us. We kept in constant communication at first but months passed by and we lost track with each other. After 7 years we met again and we’ve been a couple ever since.

Juvelyn and Cyrus Collage

Juvelyn & Cyrus Were Childhood Sweethearts

What Is Your Situation Now?

Cyrus is working in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia and live in the Philippines. His contract is for 2 years and this is his 2nd time working abroad. Distance has played a large role in our relationship from the very start. You wouldn’t believe that we did not have a chance to celebrate our anniversary together for 8 years due to distance. We do not have many shared memories but I don’t regret the decision of loving him across a distance.

Our love for each other grows deeper each and every day. Distance may separate us but it’s not a hindrance making our relationship last. He even surprises me by sending flowers and chocolates. I am content and happy with what we have right now.

What Do You Find Difficult About the Distance?

Everything is difficult if you’re in a long distance relationship. Different timezones, bad internet connections, expensive airfares and even costly calls/ texts. I want to hug, cuddle, kiss and hold his hands but I can’t. I want to be with him but it’s totally impossible. But everything happens for a reason and I think the reason why we’re in this situation is to make us stronger and to test our love for each other.

Juvelyn and Cyrus Together

Juvelyn and Cyrus Together

We argue even if it’s just a little things but I am happy I found someone like Cyrus who’s very understanding. He is always there to cheer me up when I am down. We may be apart but I feel like he is just beside me. He has never changed since the 1st day we’ve been together.

What Is Your Advice for Long Distance Couples?

For all LDR couples out there – hang on guys. Distance is just temporary. If you really love each other, you’re willing to endure everything. The most important thing in a successful relationship is communication. If you have a problem or argue, don’t let it pass. Talk about it, be open and trust each other.

I think our story is unique and I think God really destined us to be together. We’ve been childhood friends separated for 7 years and in just a blink of an eye we’ve met again and had the chance to be a couple. Now we are fighting for our love against the distance. So just believe in the power of love and work for it. Stay in love and be happy!

What Are Your Plans for the Future?

His contract will end during September 2017 and we’re both very excited. We’re planning to go on trips and have some adventures. We are creating a bucket list of what we want  to do. Both of us like food so most likely the first thing on our list is to go on food inspired trip.

Juvelyn and Cyrus Beach

The Couple Have Travel Plans for the Future

We will start creating memories together and enjoy every second we’ve lost. He has been asking me if I am ready to start a new life with him (marriage). But for now I just want to enjoy of what we have and marriage will come at the right time. I am very excited and looking forward this September to be with him.

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An American Tries British Candies, Snacks & Crisps (#Vlog 22)

Today, I tried British candy, crisps and snacks for the very first time and recorded my reactions to each. After living in the UK for 6 months, we decided it was time that I try some of the foods which are common in the UK, but not found in America.

Of course, having lived in the country for some time, we specifically sought our candies and snacks that I had not previously eaten.

So Many British Foods to Try

Some of the foods that I try in this video include: marmite, HP brown sauce, scotch eggs, pork pies, freddo chocolate bars and bakewell tarts. Most of these were a hit, but there’s definitely one or two that caught me by surprise.

Marmite in particular was a bit of a culture shock, as it was definitely a lot stronger than anticipated. Overall, however, I would say I enjoyed what I ate – and I certainly agree with the British about Cadbury’s chocolate.

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What Should We Try Next?

This was a great video to film, and certainly an enlightening experience. It’s always great to immerse yourself in different cultures (even if, for the most part, British food is not too dissimilar to what I am used to in the US). Because this video was so fun to film, we may record  a part 2. If we do, what British foods would you like to see me try next? Leave your suggestions in the comments below.

We are also planning a video where Chris tries a selection of American foods that he has not come across before. If you have any ideas on what we should include in that video, eave your suggestions in the comments as well.


#AskExpatWives: What Do You Love About Living in the UK?

Moving to a new country and starting a new life is definitely a scary experience, but it’s also an incredibly rewarding one too. Both Jude and I are American expats who moved across the pond to join our British husbands living in the UK. Since moving, we have both found things we love and adore about living in England, that we hope will never change.

What We Love About the UK

In this video, we discuss a few of our favourite things about the country – what we absolutely love and wish was a little more common in the USA.

Though we both live in completely different parts of the UK, there’s plenty of things we have noticed that are the same no matter where you go. We talk about the beautiful countryside, the difference in customer service interactions within stores and even public transport.

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What Is ‘Ask Expat Wives’?

This is the first episode in our #AskExpatWives series. In these videos we am to answer your questions about life as an expat, living in the UK, our British husbands and more. By talking to a range of expats in the UK, we hope you’ll get a great sense of what life is like and what changes you might expect if you are considering moving to a new country.

If you have a question you would like us to answer in a future episode, leave it in the comments below! Alternatively, send your questions to us on Twitter using our handle @ilovemybrit and using the hashtag #AskExpatWives. We’ll also be releasing a similar series next week, #AskBritishHusbands, where our significant others give their perspective on adapting to new cultures and life after an LDR.


4 Challenges of an International Long Distance Relationship (Vlog #17)

There’s no doubt that dating long distance is tough. But international long distance relationships are, quite often, a whole different matter. There’s an extra layer of complexity wrapped up in both practical and cultural differences that must be worked through.

Even though Chris and I are both from similar countries (the UK & USA) we experienced a number of these challenges ourselves. For us the hardest part of an international relationship was the border crossing. Even though we were entirely ready to see each other again, we could never being entirely sure that we would make it through the border. There was always a possibility we could be turned away.

Challenges of International Relationships

In this video, we discuss four of the biggest challenges that we’ve noticed in our own international long distance relationship. From cultural barriers (that include a lot of misunderstandings) to the inevitable role that families will play in your relationship. It’s natural for family and friends to have concerns about your international relationship, and perhaps be more hesitant than you are – but don’t take this to heart.

We also talk about a few examples of how these things have impacted our relationship and the coping mechanisms that we have made use of in the past.

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What Challenges Have You Found?

Most importantly – we always remind ourselves that every relationship will have it’s fair share of bumps in the road. But it is how we overcome them that define us as who we are.

Of course, every relationship is different. The challenges that we faced may not be the same ones that you encounter. So, if you are in an international relationship – let us know if you have come across some of the difficulties that we mention in this video, or you think that there are some we have missed in the comments below.